What Questions Should You Ask a Medium? The Guide to Preparing Your Reading

You have booked your reading, or you have been thinking about it for weeks. And just as you are about to take the step, a small worry appears: “What if I don't know what to ask?” Many people arrive with one question that obsesses them, others with ten tangled subjects, others still with a simple feeling that it is time to take stock.

Knowing what questions to ask a medium is not a matter of finding the perfect wording. Above all, it is a way of clarifying what you truly expect from this moment. This guide helps you prepare your questions, area by area, and identify the ones that will save you time.

Why choosing the right questions to ask a medium matters

A reading lasts a set amount of time. Fifteen minutes go by quickly, and so do thirty. The clearer your questions, the deeper the exchange can go, instead of scattering.

That does not mean locking everything down. A medium often perceives things you had not planned to address, and these are sometimes the most precious messages. But arriving with a clear intention gives the reading a direction. You remain at liberty to let yourself be surprised.

Open questions, richer than closed ones

“Will he come back?” calls for a yes or a no. “What can I understand about this relationship, and where is it leading me?” opens a much wider space. Open questions give the medium room to convey what he perceives, with all its nuances, rather than reducing your situation to a box.

A few examples of how to rephrase:

• Instead of “Will I change careers?”, try “What is blocking my professional life right now, and what direction is opening up before me?”
• Instead of “Does he love me?”, try “What does he truly feel, and what is this story here to teach me?”
• Instead of “Should I sell?”, try “What should I take into account before this decision?”
• Instead of “Is my mother here?”, try “Does my mother have a message for me today?”

Example questions by area

Love and relationships

This is the most frequent subject, and often the most emotionally charged. You can ask what is at play in your current relationship, what is preventing you from meeting someone, or why the same patterns repeat from one relationship to the next. If you are going through a separation, ask instead what will help you move forward rather than seeking a date of return at all costs.

Career and professional choices

A career change, a project that is stalling, a difficult atmosphere, an offer to accept or not: you can ask which path suits you best, what obstacles lie ahead, and what you would gain by changing, or by staying. The medium does not decide in your place; he helps you see more clearly.

Family and close relationships

A conflict with a parent, a worry about a child, a bond that has loosened: phrase the question from your own perspective. “How can I ease my relationship with my sister?” will always be more useful than “Why is my sister like that?”

A loved one who has passed

When people consult to connect with someone who has passed, they often hope for a sign, a word, a confirmation that the bond still exists. Prepare one or two questions that truly matter to you, then leave room for whatever comes through. We have devoted a full article to this subject: connecting with a loved one who has passed.

Questions to avoid, or to phrase differently

Some questions rarely lead to a useful answer:

Questions about health. A medium does not replace a doctor. If a health question is worrying you, consult a qualified professional. You can, however, ask what will help you go through this period with more serenity.

Overly precise dates. “March 14 at 3 p.m.?” puts needless pressure on the reading. Time is often perceived in periods, seasons, stages.

Questions about other people's lives, unrelated to you. What matters is your path, and how others cross it.

Questions meant to “test” the medium. It is human to need proof. But a reading spent checking is a reading in which you listen less. Let things come, and judge on the whole.

How many questions should you prepare?

It all depends on the format chosen. For a short reading focused on a single area, two or three questions are more than enough: that is the principle of The Clarification, fifteen minutes to fully cover a specific subject. For a longer reading, you can address two or three areas, keeping your priority questions in mind.

A simple tip: write down your questions the day before, then rank them by importance. If time runs short, you will have covered the essentials.

On the day of the reading: a few guidelines

Settle in a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. Keep your questions in front of you, and a notebook to write down what strikes you: many messages take on their full meaning a few days later. Breathe, and let the exchange unfold naturally.

If this is your very first reading, our guide to preparing for your first mediumship reading walks you through it step by step.

And if you prefer to write your questions?

Some people need to take their time to put what they feel into words, or to reread the answer several times. Written Guidance is made for them: you send your question and receive a personal answer that you keep.

Consulting Nicolas-David Paris®

Nicolas-David Paris® has been practicing for 25 years and has given more than 46,000 readings in 47 countries. He holds a 4.9/5 rating across 15,284 reviews, and was Named Best Medium in France in 2020* and Best Medium in Paris in 2022*. From his private office in the Principality of Andorra, he receives people from all over the world by video or phone. Feedback from his clients is gathered on the testimonials page, and practical questions are answered in the FAQ.

In summary

The best questions to ask a medium are open, centered on you, and connected to what truly matters today. Prepare a few, rank them by priority, avoid medical subjects and dates to the exact day, then leave room for whatever comes. A reading is not an exam: it is a moment to see more clearly.

When you feel ready, you can book your reading in the format that suits you.

* According to the national medium rankings 2020-2022.